Time to wring out the old
They say that holding onto resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. That always struck me as a little dismissive, not to mention morbid. Most of us are not hoping for anyone to die; we'd truly…
Meet the frenemies within
The brain is both our best friend and our worst enemy: Meet the frenemies within. The creative and expansive ones dream big while the fearful and structured ones tell us there's no time for that. It’s like stepping on the…
Why is rage all the rage?
Have you noticed how rage rooms are popping up in cities everywhere? Perhaps you have one in your house called the bathroom where you turn on the shower and scream? It's better than going postal at work, getting into a…
Releasing the lies that bind us
Humans seem to have a complicated relationship with the truth. We worship honesty as a pillar of society, religion, and our personal value systems. But our deepest instincts are rooted in survival, which often compels us to speak lies or…
Turn emotional trash into treasure
Painful stories happen to all of us. A marriage or relationship goes sour. A job gets eliminated or our business tanks. A health issue rocks our world. These are bitter pills to swallow. Often, our reaction is to suppress and…
A purpose that matters
In one of those Where's Waldo puzzles, we search for a little guy hidden within a complex drawing of different places across the globe. It reminds me of how some of us search the world over to find a purpose…
The truth about love bombing
Some people are so desperate to find romantic love, they resort to something called love bombing.* This involves flooding an object of desire with a veritable tsunami of attention, flattery, and affection. While that may sound delightful, in this extreme…
Is your check engine light on?
Some of us are in the habit of ignoring when our body’s check engine light is on—or totally unaware that such a thing exists. Meanwhile, our energy is leaking everywhere, putting us at risk for burnout or breakdown. That’s when…
Give the gift of healing
In the classic holiday tale, A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens, we meet Scrooge—a miserly, cold-hearted, joyless man who hates everyone. Sort of the OG Grinch. One Christmas Eve, a ghost takes him on a nightmarish tour of his past,…
Time to be a sloth
For many of us, we prepare for our day's activities like we're gearing up for battle. Think of the phrases we use…tackling our to do list; attacking a project; knocking it off the list; kicking ass. We'll skip lunch and…